Love Can Never Be Unsure

Love Can Never Be Unsure

~Maya Angelou

This quote has and continues to help me determine when I have arrived at the end of the road with anything. “Love Can Never Be Unsure," a line delivered by the deceased force of nature that is Maya Angelou.For me the words are a barometer of effort. When you love yourself you love life and that is because the people in your life, the place you find yourself in and the things that accommodate you make you happy. Trust you knowing also referred to as your spirit man. I have heard people say that you can’t love inanimate things, for the record and the purposes of this blog I respectfully disagree. Love takes effort interest and involvement.

Loving another human being is easy living with and being in relationship with another human being is a purpose driven endeavor. There are times when it feels perfect and doing whats asked of the relationship is a joy but as we all know there are days when you want to burn the breakfast on purpose just to prove a point. (I am the only one? Fine.) As a ferocious lover I have learned that in the hardest moment the easiest question to as yourself is “Are you sure?” The one thing you have to know is that the love is real and there. Subconsciously we answer the question all the time, we draw on love to do the things we don't feel like doing. The thing I want to address here is the caregiving nature.

I have always been a caregiver. Without cognition I have always taken care of people and after the death of my mother I found myself uncared for. I did for people and they did for me but the caring wasn’t there was indiscernible love and a lack of intimacy. I was unfulfilled in every area of my life. I felt abandoned by everyone that was supposed to love me, but what I realized and began to change was the reality that I had abandoned myself. I had to take some time to spend with just me. Sometimes you have to rediscover the love in you for you, this is always the starting point. You can’t give what you don't have. 

Seeing life through the lens of love allows you to see things clearly and with mercy. So while I have talked about relationships here the truth is that I check my knowing to be sure in everything. What I have learned is that God is Love and we should live in his presence reflecting Him as Love to the earth. With God guiding you the feelings of doubt are warfare and that is easy to confirm by submitting and drawing closer to God. Resist the desire to not want to know. I am not saying that by accident, I have many times not wanted to hear what God was saying because it was easier to just be unsure and not make a decision. Dont let that devil ride, stay in flow. 

Keep that for yourself,

ANR