Are you in a dry place in your life? Do you feel like you
can not access the fruit of your efforts. Have you emptied your cup for the
saucer experience? If this is where you find yourself then come here and sit
with me for a while and I will attempt to help you. My love once taught me that
help is only help when it is perceived as such otherwise it is interference. I
hope that if you have read this far I am not interfering but I am going to get
a little in your business.
Here are five of the places that dry us out.
1.
Negative relationships
2.
Dwelling on past failures and disappointments
3.
Wanting more for people than they want for
themselves
4.
Dying with the lie
5.
Involuntary Surrender
One two and
three are pretty self explanatory and if you have ever sought to better
yourself then you know these relationships and habits are hard to break but
worth the effort. It is draining to let anyone speak into your life things that
do not edify it. You can’t be okay with the relationship that doesn’t feed you
plain and simple. I will starve before I eat molded bread. More people will
always come, you can make new friends and that man is replaceable beyond your
hurt feelings and a few lonely nights protect your prosperity by removing these
types of people. We all make
mistakes and living in those moments divert you attention from current
opportunities and leave you seeing life in the rearview experiencing loss and
sadness. Go get your life back.
Release the past, I have a process that I follow for disappointments. It is
available on my website. (link the word website) And number three is about family.
Your family are the people that you can not get rid of even if you do not have
them in your life on a daily basis they are still your blood. For these types
of draining relationships you have to do work of loving people where they are.
If you don’t want a college degree then okay Im sorry that is your choice but
as a result you have this amount of time to get out of my house and you can
expect this much and type of help from me going forward. Finish with “Don’t
believe me just watch this moving company come in box your things and leave
them at the edge of the driveway. I love you.”
Now for the reasons that ignited the need for this blog.
Number 4 – Dying with the Lie. I would often accuse my love of being a cheater
and I was right he was and is. The reality of that was that I did not mind the
cheating as much as I despised being lied to. I hated knowing and not being
able to talk about it, not getting the details so I could move on with my life.
Now that is odd and doesn’t relate to most people but the point is I had to
live with his lies that he would swear by even in the face of proof that he had
lied. Living in a place that wasn’t true to who I am made me sick with myself
and as a result I was draining my cup. Prior to that growing up in a terrible
parenting situation trying to call the man that I look like my father when he
had never been an active part of my life. Saying the words mother to a woman
that had tried since birth to kill me physically and emotionally since birth
felt like a lie I could not live with as result I started referring to them by
name and felt immediately better. They were not my parents they were the
vessels that would bring me to my real parents. Lying to myself that they were
more than that was draining my cup. You get the picture? Something in your life
is a lie, honor yourself with the truth and let the lie die.
Number 5 – Involuntary Surrender. I have often found myself caught up in situations that I
had no idea how I had gotten into the mess or how I would get out. More often
than we realize we surrender to people to situations to responsibilities that
we have no capacity to take on. I have learned to honor my gifts by only doing
what serves them. Only attending events that feed my purpose and if it doesn’t
and I happen to go I don’t stay long. I make it my business to be present in my
life to show up for myself and to ask myself what the yes will cost me. What is the yes costing you that you
have not accounted for?
I said all of this to say that after every tough time after
all of the energy depletion and disappointment you must seek to be refreshed. I
love the beach and going there revives me, but when I can’t get there I clean
my house and have a staycation in which I rest, pray, read, write, sleep, plan,
eat well, and binge watch television. I cut-off my cellphone and only take
house phone calls. Yes I have a house phone, are you judging me? I have child a
business and a job.
So in closing find your happy place by resting in the power of
God and self. Re-enter your life refreshed and protect the power and resources
that you have stored in your cup. God will add increase for the saucer, but he
has to have something to increase. It is not magic, while I do believe in
magic, I am convinced that growth and prosperity are achieved by an increase to
effort. I can’t expect to win blogging awards if I don’t write blogs. I cant
expect to have bestsellers if Idont market the books I write. I do the work God
gives the increase. You do the work and as sure as he promised it God will give
the increase.
I love you
Atiya
